3.1 "Unspeakable". -- the speaker to have their own hard

The United States of America interpersonal master Carnegie in" the weakness of human nature" a book opens with an pours out" don't complain, blame or criticize others"," to an appropriate way to praise"," talk about topics of interest to others" counsel -, and these so as to speak language criterion is divided chapter. Dragon Veins Agate Beads I put these elements together, to find Carnegie on the foothold, found him extremely pay attention to the speaker in the talk that moment of psychological preparation. Carnegie thinks, say if they knew, but others misunderstand the meaning, it is not. Han Feizi in the" middle" that of a conclusion is:" a little difficult also, office know is it!" Meaning: if a person lies may be suspected or is not the opinion of situation, even if the correct words cannot make mouth itch ( even if only the mouth itch is a premise, conditional ).
If Carnegie and Han Feizi's views are combined, a phenomenon worthy of attention: why living over two thousand years ago and autocratic society Han Fei and now lives in a democratic society" Carnegie on the nozzle" view of the discussion should be so come down in one continuous line? View of human nature does exist some beyond history, beyond class, society beyond, beyond race and the prevalence of subtle.
Let my mouth -- this is no one would dictate. But not only to speak, and good mouth tube, which for many people is a real problem. But the world is because of difficult, is praiseworthy for one's excellent conduct. A famous scholar Mr Ma Yinchu as president during the Peking University, it had experienced a" itchy mouth" was speaking difficult awkwardness, but he relies on wisdom, in an instant surprising.
It was Mr. Ma Yinchu was invited to participate in the Chinese Department Professor Guo Liangfu wedding ceremony. Hershey's people saw the president to visit the scene, mood suddenly rising up, applause principal Ma impromptu speech. Mr Ma Yinchu had not thought to talk, but in a festive environment, Wholesale Beads cannot violate the public will, and also really want to say two words of wishes. But, what? A few scenes words, Ma president without this habit; about learning it, apparently be inopportune or inappropriate. Suddenly, he suddenly have a brain wave, a phrase improvised:" I would like to ask the bride at ease, because according to the name, he must be a good husband."